Sunday, January 21, 2007

It's a club

This post will contain specific Grey's Anatomy spoilers for last Thursday's episode. You have been warned.

Tonight George's father died. He was very ill and George had to make the call to tell his mother to unplug the life support. George is in the room with his brothers and his mom and then, as we'd expect, all his hospital brothers and sisters (even Korev!) are outside the room waiting. He walks right past them and then Christina (Christina? Yeah, Christina.) follows him. She catches up with him in an alley outside and she says (paraphrasing), "There's a club. The dead dad's club and you can't be in it until you're in it. I'm sorry you're in the club, George."

George says, "I don't know how to exist in a world that doesn't have my father in it."

And Christina says, "Yeah, that never really changes."

I've always thought of it like that. I have a few friends (and you know, my dad) who have lost one or both parents. So I keep waiting for one of them to step in and say to Steph & Bud, "..." well, to basically say exactly what Shonda Rimes had Christina say. To welcome them to the club, albeit with regret, and thereby let them know...I don't know that there's something.

No one's stepping up.

Which makes me feel like Shonda Rimes isn't telling the truth.

Or maybe not. But still it's not right. Someone should be assigned welcome wagon duties. There should be a basket and some sort of informational packet and, if it's not too much trouble, an intiation DVD.

Also chocolate. Lots of chocolate.


  1. Chocolate, for sure. And maybe a drink with an umbrella in it.

    Yoga class, as you described it, is exactly why I never went to a second class.

    Hope this week is better for you.

  2. Anonymous7:33 PM

    Unfortunately, there are no perks to this membership. The official handshake is a half-smile with slight upward nod- like a phantom chuck of the chin. That's about all you get.

  3. Anonymous7:39 PM

    Sorry, I didn't mean to be anonymous. Though there are no badges or anything, it's not really that kind of club either.

  4. Anonymous9:36 PM

    I watched that episode tonight (thank you, TiVo). I remember feeling very much like Meredith. When my parents die (either of them), there will be absolutely no change in my life. There's a better than even chance that I won't even know.

    The scene where she asks Christina if it's weird that she envies George a little, my answer was 'no.' I understand why Christina thinks that the answer is 'yes,' but she doesn't understand the whole "better to have loved and lost" idea. I get that, because I've experienced the opposite.

    My husband completely lost it during the final scene. While he's not particularly affectionate with his father - they've never had that kind of relationship - he's going to be crushed when he's gone. The man's 85 this year and, while he's still pretty healthy, simple arithmatic tells us that it won't be too long before he passes. I won't be able to initiate him into the club, and I'm wondering exactly how I'm going to sustain him.

  5. Anonymous10:40 AM

    Well written article.