Wednesday, April 04, 2007


Were JAM and I still together this would be our anniversary. We had our first date on this day in 1988, almost 20 years ago. It was a Sunday. I wouldn't remember it except that for a couple of years we just knew that it was Easter so we celebrated then. ChemE wouldn't stand for that, though, so she hauled out an old calendar (it was before we used the internet for everything) and figured out the date and insisted we use it properly.

Years later on a day after the 4th of April, probably around the 8th, we were on the subway together and something in our conversation triggered our memories and we realized that we hadn't celebrated our anniversary. We hadn't thought about celebrating, we hadn't planned to celebrate, we hadn't said something to each other on the date, it passed by entirely unnoticed. Now, I don't want to tell you what to do or anything but let me give you one tiny piece of advice based on my experience - if such a thing happens to you it's a fair bet that the relationship is in the crapper and you would not be unwise if you chose that time to get the hell out of Dodge. No pressure, just something to think about.

Hopefully that memory will get pushed out by the fact that this happened today. Seems like a better use of those particular brain cells.


  1. August 11. I Never forget it. (My break up day.) We all have those 9/11 memories in our own lives. Nonaversaries. Filled with memories of "I remember when..." In fact BABS has that great song out that starts that way. It would be more strange not to remember. Zelda used to have this great bulletin board in high school that had quotes and pics on it...wasn't "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" on there Z? What was the signature Zelda quote? Why isn't that burned in my brain instead of August 11?

  2. Anonymous7:55 AM

    you are too good for JAM and at least you know the date now so you can have chocolate in peace on Easter (2 pieces, 2 pts) CHEME

  3. Anonymous1:44 PM

    I second ChemE. It's so true.