Sunday, October 21, 2007

You Really Don't Know

I spent yesterday in Suburbia. There were burgers and there was pizza, we picked pumpkins and I sat among that most dangerous of species, the soccer parents. I took some pictures and I think there are some really good shots but we won't know until I get them developed. However, I think the most interesting moment was at dinner when I had the following conversation with a 7-year-old girl. I think it just illustrates that we never know what's going on in someone else's mind, even when the person in question is a kid, we shouldn't get cocky because we simply do not know.

Her: I have a question!

Me: OK.

Her: So, ok, you know when people get married and the bride and um, the, um...

Me: Groom.

Her: Groom. When the bride and groom say I do and then they kiss and everything?

Me: Yeah?

Her: OK, yeah, well then after that? Why do they get divorced?


  1. Anonymous5:23 PM

    That's easy to answer.
    You know those, like, vows (a short word for promises) they make when they get married?
    Well, a wedding is like a play, none of it is real. So those lines they say don't really express what the actors actually feel.

  2. First off, she's 7 not 37.

    Secondly, it depends on the actors. It's no accident that Robert Downey, Jr. gave a stellar performance in Less Than Zero.

  3. Anonymous5:46 PM

    How sad a seven year old would say that. What did you say to her?

  4. She wasn't all forlorn or anything and we weren't actually talking about anything even remotely related to marriage so I think she's just curious.

    I told her that we just don't know. Sometimes people just can't live together anymore and we don't always know why. Then her mom reminded her that they'd talked before about an example from her own life. She liked a certain boy in kindergarten and she wanted to marry him but she doesn't like him that way now so if she'd marry him then they probably would have gotten divorced.