Tuesday, December 30, 2008


I really like the end of the year memes. I think I can find a couple more before we ring in the new year. If not I'll do them after the ringing.

I don't know if I originally got this from Linda but she's the one who makes it easy to do.

1. What did you do in 2008 that you’d never done before?

Sang a solo at a funeral. Planned a big birthday party for myself. Rescued a kitten trapped underneath a truck in the middle of rush hour traffic. Attended, nay participated in, the Mermaid Parade.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I kept a lot of them, I think, as shown by my 108 in 2008 list. (Update coming soon.) I will make resolutions soon but probably not 109 for 2009.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

Yes, someone I just rediscovered fairly recently did and she let me be part of the celebration.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

Oh lord yes. Freaking hate. First Joe the Barber then Auntie Blanche and then, of course, my boss.

5. What countries did you visit?

Just America. My passport remains unrenewed and I remain trapped in America. Must fix.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?

A passport, a job I love, an answer to my cat's health issues, sex.

7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

Auntie Blanche's birthday since it was the last time I saw her. August 23rd.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I sang at Auntie Blanche's funeral and am not now in a loony bin for recovery purposes.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Can't write about all of them here but they're the same big failures I have every year. I don't work hard enough on supporting myself with activities/jobs I enjoy. I eventually snap when I've put up with shit for a long time and I inevitably do it in a way that makes me look like the problem. I feel bad for doing the thing badly. Very bad. I do not feel bad for doing the thing. You know?

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

No, just repeated shavings off of my skin to make sure I don't suffer more illness and injury.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My awesome camera which I love in a way that must be at least a little bit illegal.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

Anyone who voted, especially if they hadn't done so before. Technically, though, I refuse to celebrate them until they make a habit of it.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

Anyone who used the election season as a reason to treat others poorly. This group might include me, but I hope it doesn't.

14. Where did most of your money go?

You know, I'm not sure. I'm going to say travel and I'll probably be right. With two major deaths I made a lot of treks back and forth. Wouldn't have done it any differently. Wish there was a bereavement tax deduction, though.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Well, the election, natch. Almost everybody got really excited about it just that for some it was in a good way and for some, not so much.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008?

The words to the 23rd Psalm even though I can't remember the tune right now, since I sang that for Auntie Blanche.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
 a) happier or sadder? 
b) thinner or fatter? 
c) richer or poorer?

a. Weirdly happier. Or perhaps simply more resigned.

b. About the same. Need to shave off a tiny bit to be back at fighting weight.

c. Not sure. Probably slightly poorer.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Work on my career.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Worry about my job.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

With friends and family in a wonderfully low key series of events up north.

21. Did you fall in love in 2008?


22. What was your favorite TV program?

Pick one? Seriously? How I Met Your Mother. No, Weeds. No! Mad Men! GAH! Those three and many, many more.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

I wouldn't go so far as to say hate but I have stopped regular chats with a number of people after seeing their true colors. Another side effect of Election Fever.

24. What was the best book you read?

I read a lot of books this year. I couldn't possible remember. I did very much love Here If You Need Me from those I read recently.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

I loved a hymn from Junebug. I think I might really like The Weepies even though I just heard that one song.

26. What did you want and get?

A new president from a slightly different perspective.

27. What did you want and not get?

For Auntie Blanche to get better.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?

So many choices, damn, since I've been seeing so many more movies this year than in years past. It might be between Milk and Miss Pettigrew Lives For A Day. I received the latter for Christmas from ChemE both in movie and book form.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I was 39 and I drank champagne with friends to celebrate. Not sure if that was on the actual day or not but I think it was.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Submitting something for publication.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?

Does this fit? No? But I don't have anything else.

32. What kept you sane?

Friends & pets, a formidable fighting force.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

This is so loaded. I mean, the most meaningful public person this year has to be Barack Obama, but I don't necessarily fancy him as such. In terms of fancying I'd have to go with more superficial choices like Robert Downey, Jr. and Neil Patrick Harris. My continuing desire for Josh Jackson and Lee Tergesen does not abate.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?

The whole election stirred me but, in terms of making me see both myself and others differently I think it would have to be the issues of reproductive choice.

35. Who did you miss?

Auntie Blanche.

36. Who was the best new person you met?

I got a lot of people back from the past but I'm having trouble thinking of many people I met new. Oh! I'm going to give it as a tie between Mrs. G and San Diego Momma because together they made my experience of the blogosphere more complete and more rewarding. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to make myself fun when meeting people I loved from the internet but I was. Or at least fun enough that they fell for it. Because those ladies? Way fun.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008.

It's an old lesson but it wasn't followed closely enough this year. Think. Breathe. Speak.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

I find this the most difficult one to answer. I really don't make these sorts of connections very well. Can't choose. Going to give you a selection of three.

From Jonatha Brooke's Back in the Circus:
And all the pretty horses
And all the pretty men
Well they could not put this pretty heart
Back together again, O no

From Colin Hay's Waiting For My Real Life to Begin:
And you say,"Just be here now
Forget about the past
Your mask is wearing thin"

Finally, back to Jonatha for a snippet of No Net Below:
My timing's all wrong
And the ladder is gone
And all I can do, is
Swing 'til it's all net below
All I can do, is
Swing 'til it's all net below
And I can let go


  1. Oh how I love this.

    You write so well...have I told you that this month?

    And the Weepies! Be still my heart. Listen to the World Spins Madly On. It's one of my favorites. I think you'd like it too.

    Also, you completely outfunned me when we met. Even my brother says so. :)

    Finally, I would have loved to hear that solo.

    Here's to a great 2009. Maybe you can come on over to San Diego sometime?

  2. I will be boosting.

  3. SDM, you have not told me that lately. Thank you! I think your fam is pretty fun, too. Glad I did the blogosphere proud. :) I still haven't been back to that restaurant your bro took us to. I've got to get back there, it was divine. I have heard nothing but good things about San Diego and it's got you, too, so I'd really like to come some time.

    Chili, boost away! that's what I did. :)

  4. Another Weepies vote from me.
    And RDJ... yes, yes so glad to see him back!
    I'm glad to have found Mrs. G through you. She makes me laugh. Hard.
    And making all those resolutions that you did and keeping them. Well standing O to you dear! It was a large scary list! But you did it!
    Still sending you and Em love and glad to hear she is feeling somewhat better.