Sunday, November 25, 2007

The Long List of Things I Don't Get

This week's PostSecret offering had a number of secrets on the theme of virginity. One e-mail said this:

-----Email Message-----
Sent: Saturday, November 24, 2007 1:51 PM
Subject: Married virgins

Hi Frank,

A Lifetime of Secrets arrived in the post today. One of the secrets was: "I'm in a wonderful, loving marriage and we are still virgins and that's okay with me. "

I wanted to say to the secret-writer: Me too! My husband and I have been married for eighteen months and we couldn't be happier! And we know two other couples in the same sort of relationships. We're all friends and happy for one another. We know that just because we don't do the mattress rodeo it doesn't mean our relationships are any less valid than anyone else's.

Victoria Glancetts (it's cool to print my name)
On the one hand I feel like, ok cool, as long as everyone is happy with it and I certainly wouldn't call the partnership less valid than any other. On the other hand I'm incredulous, 'cause guys? Sex is awesome! Some days, certainly, more awesome than others but still, overall and with rare exception, a day with sex is better than your average day without it. I just hope they have some wiggle room on this whole virgin marriage thing, that they're giving all the many permutations of the term a chance. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it and all that. You know?


  1. I was TOTALLY thinking THE SAME THING! I was also, cynically, thinking that, if they wait a while, they can have a marriage without sex anyway, but that's another post....

  2. Anonymous1:25 PM

    Somehow, the terms marriage and no sex do not jive with me. I'm so with you on the idea that life with sex is better than without it. Why bother getting married? Ok, some marriages are platonic, or have devolved (?) there, but starting out? Different strokes, fine, but no strokes at all?? Maybe their mommies never had the birds and the bees conversations with them...

  3. Anonymous5:24 PM

    "mattress rodeo" "MATTRESS RODEO"

    My world is obviously much too small.

  4. My Grandparents.
    I don't think they have had sex in decades kids.
    My Mother keeps telling me that you get to a point where it doesn't matter.
    I don't care for sharp things unless its a sense of humor.
    So I would rather not ever get to that point.
    Anything goes it seems.
    Give them 2 kamakazees and a beer and I bet they would be riding like pro rodeo cowboys!